For as much as I would like to live a happy, normal, well rounded life, some people, I mean toxic people find their simple evil ways to drain your energy, sucking every inch of your happiness like dementors (those evil monsters from Harry Potter) Im not a big Harry Potter fan but there is no other being or creatures in that case to compare them with. Lucky me I am living with this kind of people in every working hours of my life.
For readers FYI- this isnt a hate blog, I thought sharing my experience with some clips from interesting websites may help you identify them and somehow learn to deal with them.
If you think you belong or somehow manifest the evil symptoms below, please do change, your making other people a really big favor and they may even thank you for it.
Toxic Relationships: The People
Some TOXIC PEOPLE maybe in relationships or workplace constantly drain your energy, in both obvious and subtle ways. Several types of people will exhaust you or deter you from your path to living a fulfilled life. Life coach Cheryl Richardson describes six types of toxic qualities in people. The Blamer
This person likes to hear his own voice. He constantly complains about what isn't working in his life and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping his frustrations on you.
The Drainer
This is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice or whatever she needs to feel better in the moment. Because of her neediness, the conversation often revolves around her, and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during the conversation.
The Shamer
This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your or your ideas in front of others. He often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that his criticism is for you own good. The shamer is the kind of person who makes you question your own sanity before his.
The Discounter
This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often, she has a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.
The Gossip
This person avoids intimacy by talking about other behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest "scoop." By gossiping about others, he creates a lack of safety in his relationships, whether he realizes it or not. After all, if he'll talk about someone else, he'll talk about you.
good morning chow
